2nd September

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back, my little couch buddy. Look at this. We've got a, you know, new podcast, little setup scenario we've got going on by the lips. You never know where we're going to be. So just sensory experience. Yeah, yes. So beautiful. Thank you too. Do you imagine people doing things on this? Oh, I wonder where this couch has been. Kira, the owner of Miss Westy studios in Melbourne's west we are so lucky. We are truly surrounded by the most amazing women we are that they have our backs in every aspect. So Kira, she took our photos our very first photo shoot. They're the photos that feature on our website, on our pod, and we've also got boutique digital and Megan and the girls behind us now supporting us with our social media and our PR and our PR and marketing. And we're just like, we have the best people, yeah, yeah, yeah. Energy attracts our tribe. Yes. They just want to survive attraction tribe, yeah. I love it. And we've got a beautiful, beautiful community that we are forming. And I'm blown away by, I think the Yeah, we know that we talk like, we talk about, like, oh yeah, we are releasing an episode this week and every other week. And I'm like, but now we have a we have a tribe of listeners, yes, loyal listeners, yeah, that are emailing us, DMing us, and you come on, tell everyone the most exciting thing that happened this week. Let's go. I'm really excited. She got her first dick pic.

Well, unsolicited, I

received my first dick pic, but you have shown me one of the dick pics to fall through an app. That is true. That was theoretically, that was nice for you, right? So when I literally got that excited, I'm like, have you seen this email today? What are you talking about? No, no. You wrote Happy Thursday. Happy Thursday. Have you read our emails? And then we have this like a group with, you know, our content creators and our marketing lady and everyone, and I'm like, I got my first dick pic today. Yeah? And congratulations. It's so exciting, and it wasn't even from a man. No. Sue. Yeah, Sue. We love Sue's story, and I want to share her story. So we'd obviously done an episode on, you know, having been sent unsolicited dick pics, and what people thought about that. So if you haven't listened, go and listen to that episode. But at the end of that, we said, hey, if you've got a story, like, share it with us. People. Us. We'd love to hear it, and we're going to feature that. Yeah, one of our viewers confessions, aren't we? Yeah, we have so many stories. Listen to those. They are really funny. Like, they come out at least once a week, and some very lots of interesting stuff. So thank you very much. Anyone else who wants to email in some stuff, we love it, just like, love it, and it makes our day. So we have some news at the end of the pod that we're going to share with you on how we can stay connected on another level. So anyway, let's share Sue's story. Okay, I really wanted to share so I got this email Thursday morning, and it was a really long, beautifully detailed email. So Sue works in a workplace. You know, men and women both work there, and there's this guy that had been flirting with her a little bit, and he just, you know, the vibrato of, you know, I've got, I've got a massive package and, you know, and everyone in the office knew, because this is how he portrayed himself, 10 calories, I do believe, right, it was the length 10 inches. So he says. So then one day, she receives a dick pic from this gentleman. Such a gentleman next to a ruler, next to a ruler, and he'll be lying. It was definitely not 10 inches, that's for sure. Do you know how long 10 inches is? Yes, I do. I've seen 10 inches before. It's terrifying. Centimeters, I will tell you, it's terrifying. And it hits the end so I've heard, oh yeah. Okay, good, okay, it is not good. I'm done with the men thinking bigger penis is good. It's not good. So

Sue receives this picture, and it was half

of that, 5.5 it was 5.5 Yep. And she's like, I never asked for this. So you know what? I'm going to share it with my fellow female colleagues. Let's see. You know he speaks so highly of his of you know what he carries. Let's now share with the other women and word to the men. Yes, we do share. Yes, we do show people. I made a collage in covid of all the unsolicited pics I received, and because they were unsolicited and I didn't want to see them. So that's why, like these solicited ones, completely different scenario getting all horned on they're private. We stay private, correct? But if you're going to send that to me, and I didn't, and I didn't want it, then fucking everyone's gonna see it. That gave her the green light, yeah, so she said, down with you sue. And two weeks later, he'd be gone. He don't work, nor there, because he'd also, she'd also taught us, he'd also send it to someone else in the office, and then 15 minutes later, saying, I'm really sorry I shouldn't have done that or whatever, like to both women, like as if we don't talk men. We talk to each other all the time. You can't get away with that shit speaking about talking to each other. I have been watching some real interesting TV shows lately. Oh, I know the hunting wipes. Have you been watching that? No, I have not seen why don't you do this? Why do you can I tell you why I don't watch it? I did look at it and I went, Oh, that's gonna be sad, and it's gonna be about murder and things, and things, and I don't want to have that in my I don't even the murder Well, I'm talking about everything, so I don't know what happens if I didn't watch but I'm just telling you why I didn't watch it. I like things that are uplifting. It doesn't didn't sound uplifting. Well, if I was out, that's interesting, because so I like watching and maybe listening, like audio books or reading, you know, thrillers. I didn't know that this is where it was going. Yeah. All I'd seen were, like, the tiktoks on, you know, men that were like, if you've watched the hunting ones with your wife, and then their facial expressions all like, oh, like, real shocked at what is actually on there. Yeah? So for those playing along, and for those not playing along, I'll give a little synopsis, right? Because you know nothing about I know nothing. Okay, so Texas, we're in Texas, there's a family the bank's family. They are like, he's running for governor or whatever. So he's a gun enthusiast, and obviously, in that state, everything's legal, and everyone has a gun, and so you've got to watch along. But they're a conservative political family, and the state's conservative, so real right wing. Yeah, it's all about politics. Politics, that's that's what you think it's about. What's another reason KV wouldn't have watched it? So Margo and Jed are the main characters, and I don't know that actresses name anyway. And then there's Sophie and Graham, who come from, like, Boston, like they've moved to Texas, because he's starting to work like Sophie's husband, Graham's starting to work with Jed banks, the main character. So they go to, like, a fourth of July party, and the two husband and wives need each other. So it's like his boss introduced, like he's introducing his boss to his wife and so forth. And they exchange, you know, hello, and there's Margo and Sophie. And they have this moment as women where, like, you know, she's using the sexuality. So we, in a previous episode, we have spoken about sexual oozing and how that we have very sexual and how, yes, it's a state. It's not something that you can always, you know, be like you have to, you've got to ooze that, right? Yep, that's Margo back. So any room she walks into, she Yeah, she said that she's good to go, or other people are interested in her both, right? So this woman is happily married, but she finds herself having these thoughts, intrusive thoughts, of Margot and what that might look like. So they're in that they catch themselves together in a bathroom, and they have a little exchange of words, and there's a little spark there. And she's fascinated with her life, and I think she's very, you know, big, rich Texas, like, you know, living it up. They've got a lake house that she goes to and lives out of away from her husband. So as the story evolves, you believe that they're living this conservative life and they're married and happily, that's not the case at all. Under all that is this. I don't want to call it a dark side, because I don't think it's a dark side. I think, you know, we took which we've talked about fantasies, and they play out every fucking fantasy. So the secret life, The Secret Life, yeah, yeah. Would you think most people have a secret life? I think they want to live a secret life. I don't know if like, not necessarily like in relation to relationships and all that sort of stuff, but a lot of people would walk around with secrets that they wouldn't want people to know. Or, what if this person found out? Better not do this. And like, Your behavior is sort of almost, I use the word equipped, but like, you know, like, you think of things, Oh, I better not do this, because that person knows this about me, and they might tell everyone, you know, that kind of stuff. I'm sure there's a lot of that that goes around. There probably is, yeah, there probably is a lot. And look, I don't, it's the first time I've heard about this, but there's lots of I understood it. And I actually think that there's a couple I might know that have this sort of lifestyle, but that turned love into marriage. Remember I said yes. This means yes. I'm like, Well, why not?

Like, I

was a Catholic born in 1972 of course, I've heard of it. Yes. I know, yes, and I was just so as the show goes on, for the people that don't know, you probably should say, we'll talk about it. Okay, great, yeah, we'll go there in a sec. But so then what I find out later, as you keep watching, because now you're hooked, and you're like, there's these sex scenes, and she's organizing, you know, escorts to come to the home to have a jacuzzi with her husband while she's at the lake house fucking the 17 year old best friend's son, because she can, she can do that. And then Sophie goes to find her and to have some discussion, and sees her with the 1717, year old, which it was a big secret she's the only person to know, yeah, and he's going down on her, and she's thoroughly enjoying it. And these are things she This is a prim and proper woman coming from Boston that never thought her brain could go there. So Margo is that character that really draws out, you know, those fantasies and those those sensual experiences in her, and she's not the best influence on her. You have to watch that for to see what actually happens. But it's do you, have you ever had those friends? Or you, maybe you are that friend that brings that out in people. I was just like, I would think I am that friend. And the reason that is I because I actually had dinner with some girlfriends the other night. We've all, we call ourselves the soul sisters. And you know who the soul sisters are? And there's eight of us, and we all had kids go to the special school. So it's actually really special friendship because of the things we've had to deal with in relation to our children are quite significant and severe and quite a lot, you know, heavy, I guess is the word I would use, right? So I was having dinner with them the other night, and one of my girlfriends actually said to me, Chris, you've changed. I don't know. I can't put my finger on it, like there's just something about you. You just seem whiter, you just seem different. And I said to her, I've got no secrets. I don't have any secrets. And she's like, What do you mean? And I go, I wrote down every single secret, everything I was ever ashamed of, anything that was mortified me, anything that exhibit a this. Is it? Anything? Yeah, I wrote it all down, and I I published it, and everyone I knew read it, and so everyone knows everything. And so because I have no secrets, I don't make any decisions about, Oh, I better not do that, because this person might think this, or this person might do that, and I tell the truth, I'm going to say 98% of the time, like, I just don't need to lie anymore. Why would you like, I don't write as anyone. Well, this is the thing, people lie and I because I did it before that, because they worried about what the other person is going to do. Like, for example, if something happened with our friendship, how much do I know about you? Everything? So there's that. Like, do you know what I mean? It's hanging there, even though it's not hanging with us, because, like, whatever. But like, Do you know what I mean? Like, it's always there in like, you know, when people have an issue with a friend, or they think, Oh, shit, they know this secret. Like, that's the like, that's the first thing people think of. And I just don't have the Oh shit. I had it happen, actually, with someone who I'd met and then had a falling out with, and then they tried to re contact me, and I'd said, No, I'm not interested. And they started screenshotting the conversation, and I thought, oh my god, oh my god. And then I went, Oh, what do I care? Tell everyone, like, what do I actually care? I wasn't upset with what I'd written, publish it, put it out there. Like, I don't care anymore. Like, I've already done that for me. So, yeah, so you don't live in this conservative world. Like, no, you have to hide. But then I did. I was raised in it 100% yes, yeah. And I think I don't know all of these shows are, shows are American based, and I'm sure that there are those people here as well. Like, remember that time I went away for my birthday, and there was this house, and it was a late summer night, and we're walking back from dinner, and there was like, a red light on, and, yeah, I'm like, do people in these fancy areas do this? Like, you have this perception of what you know people might be because they earn a certain amount of money, or they drive a certain car, or they've got this perception, and then under all of that, they're just normal people that want to have these, you know, out there experiences that you can have, have like, you know, we're sold a story, aren't we, and we don't even realize it is a story. When we're little kids, we're sold a story about what happiness is. We're sold a story about what success is. We're sold a story about like, you know, the people that are, you know, genuinely and usually the weirdos and the people that are left of center and the people that are living their own authentic lives. They're the ones that people they're the ones that people hang shit on and look down upon, but those are the people that they want to be, but they're too scared to do it. Yeah, yeah. Obviously her secrets do catch up to her. That's the point of, I'm assuming, the point of the goddamn drama, yes. But what I really was some of the themes I was drawing out of was like, Girl, love, yeah, and how different it is. So she has a long like lifelong bestie. This bestie is married to the sheriff of the town, right? And the Sheriff of the town doesn't know that his wife and Margo have this undying love for one another and basically have sex every day. And then, in a scene prior to this particular scene that wife, the sheriff's wife, is fucking him with a strap on. And this is where the lavender marriage comes in, right? So I'm like, Okay, so he's also seeing somebody else. So she walks in, he's seeing a guy. Well, that imply, but you've never, you don't see it. So he's at the police station, at the sheriff's, whatever county police station, whatever they fucking call it. And there's this young man in uniform, sort of sitting like standing over him as they looking at something on the laptop. And the wife walks in, and they're insinuating, like, it's a bit awkward. And she's like, Oh, what are you doing in here? And he's like, anyway, we'll talk later, and shut the laptop screen. And people have been talking about this scene because they're like, why do we go into full depth on a female scene? But why are we not going into the full depth of the male scene, anyway. So it's insinuated that both of them are happily married, and they portray that to the town, because it's a small town, but they each have their own relationships out of the marriage, same sex relationships. Yeah, right, yeah, yeah. And then I was speaking to someone the other day, and I said, I really think that this family have the same thing, and I just wish that I could. I would love to be like, can I just ask, is this your arrangement? Like, I've just observed that, because the husband seems so you can. I'm laughing because, like, I have, I've interacted with a lot of these people on apps, as you would well imagine. So there's a lot of couples that the woman is by and looking for a unicorn and such scenarios. And there's a lot of couples that have do swinging for that reason so they can both explore same sex. Yeah, I've come across it a lot, yeah. Well, speaking about bi, I am so proud of Mitch Brown, that AFL player that officially launched his bisexuality this week. What a complete and total fucking legend. What a complete and total fucking legend. Fucking nines of AFL years of footy. Yeah, that's the first that's the first person. Yeah. Like, how amazing are they? Yeah, he's incredible. Absolutely incredible. Yes. And I watched a little short on tick tock of him being interviewed, because obviously it's a big deal. And his wife, he read out the text message his wife sent him on the morning that, like, obviously the PR release was going out the most supportive message. Like, talk about two good humans that have mutual love and respect for one another. Like, that's his choice. His wife has supported that they're obviously ex wife, and they've got two kids. I think they've got boys. And it was the message went something along the lines of, I'm like, I couldn't be more proud of the person that you are being. This is the this is the exact person that our son needs to be leaning on and watching, and who we can be, who they can be influenced by. And I was actually, like, really emotional listening to it, yeah. Well, that's just beautiful that I mean. And of course, I mean, no one's going to be shocked that I say this. Of course, women are supportive of that, like women have led the charge in relation to things like that for a long time about, you know, the emotional intelligence that it requires to actually say things like that out loud, and know that the people who don't give it any thought, you know what they're going to say and to do it anyway. Because, you know, choosing love over fear is what I would say. You know, I never understood because there's a couple of women that I know that were married and are no longer married, but are now in same sex relationships, right? And I didn't get it initially. I was like, but how could you be married to a man and all of a sudden, like, change that, you know your orientation? I anyway, I didn't understand that, and I was very naive of me, and I'll take full responsibility everyone has, you know, wants to understand that, yeah, yeah. But then a friend, this one of the particular friends, put a post up, and it was like, love is love? Like, I didn't go out there to fall in love with this woman, but I did, like, it was her personality. It was everything that she was. It wasn't the gender that she fell in love with. It was the human, yeah, that she fell in love with. And they saw together to this day. And I just, I get it now, yeah, I get it from that one little you know, when it's something just clicks, yeah? Oh, I understand that. Yeah, oh, I understand that. Well, it's, again, one of those things they teach you as a child when you're a little girl, oh, you're gonna marry a boy one day. Are you? You just assume you're gonna marry a boy? I'm not marrying anybody. I actually, speaking of, like, speaking of Texas, I follow this lady who I just love. Her name's dolly day on Tiktok, right? She's Ali, she's 57 and she's, she's always talks about her dating stories. I've dated this guy. I've dated this guy, I've dated that guy, and she's got a massive following, you know, follower, oh, you have to follow her. She's the best, and she's got and she's also incredibly intelligent woman, like she's just all over the apps, knowing what the guys really mean. And, you know, just, she doesn't take any shit. She's just the best. And she she said something the other day about how someone had asked her out, and then she found out they've got teenage children, and she's and so she said, Oh, no, thanks. I'm not interested. I've already had my children. They're raised. And her girlfriend said to her, what are you doing? Like this guy's really good looking. He seems really nice. Why would you say no? And she goes, because I can see 10 years. I can see the next five years. I'm then having to go to soccer practice, I have to do this. And she goes, I've already done all of that. And then her girlfriend goes, Oh, you wouldn't have to do that. She goes. If I'm gonna be in a relationship with a guy, of course, I'm gonna want to care about his children, and if they're younger children, and if they're younger children, I'm not interested, so I'm just not going to even try. Anyway. So I had said, I wrote a comment on that, and I was one of the first comments on the thing, and it said something along the lines of, I completely agree with you. If you know the guy needs to add value, if he doesn't add value for you that you need, then you don't pursue something a different stage of life. Yeah. Why would you go backwards? Yeah, exactly. And so anyway, I that because it was one of the top comments. My comment got like 127

likes on my comment. And I didn't realize this until later, that there are people trolling her account as a single lady, and I got 51 messages in my inbox in Tiktok being asked out. Would you Please date me in really, really, really funny ways? Should we do an episode on just reading the ways that unbelievable, like, so funny. And one guy, actually, I only replied to one, and that's because

he wrote, sup, Chris, sup, s, u, p, how old are you? I

just thought that was so funny that I replied. And I was like, sup. Anyway, he ended up saying he wanted me to marry him. So I got a wedding. I got a marriage proposal that day. Yeah, baby. Oh, and the other Yeah, well, gee, Whoops, I forgot it was, you know, the main part of my whole day. And the funniest thing is, my sister was having a bit of a day, and so I said to her, Oh, do you want to see how my day was? And I sent her a couple of the messages, and one of them says, You look like you're trouble wrapped in elegance. Oh, my God,

that's like, the perfect description. To be fair, I think I am

trying. Pretending

to be someone who they don't like. And they pretend to be in the US military. They always pretend to be in the military, and they always have a military photo like and then make and then they end up with all the messages that God bless and, you know, like, yeah, read my profile. Oh my god, you're way off, buddy. Yeah, your favorite pop star got engaged to this. Oh, yeah, yes. T swift Yes, yes, yes. I became a Swiftie when she came to Australia, trouble when you walked down that's true. That is me also, yeah, you know what I'm so excited about with that, like, as someone who is well documented in not being overly into marriage, as you can well imagine, I was so excited for her to get engaged, and the reason I was excited was because she number one. Taylor has been saying for years that she's like, I'm a whole human being. I am complete on my own. I don't do love. She doesn't. She wasn't like, missing out on anything, not having someone in her life. And the way that he asked her out was so awesome, the fact that he did it on the pod, and she said it felt like she he had a boom box out the front of her house saying, I want a day. Want to date you. Want to date you, and like that and that story, Oh, you didn't. Oh, I don't. I like it. I don't love it. Like you, yeah? It's a bit like, we've just got different interests, yeah. So he had like, like, so she felt like it was like a boom box moment. And then all these people had said to her, no, he's really nice. You should, you know, should give him a go. And I just love that the way that they've done their relationship has created so much joy for everyone else, and she knows that, right? So she didn't give the engagement photos to a magazine and paid for it. She put it on her Instagram like everyone else would do, and she posted up like she did the podcast about a new album, and she gives these Easter eggs. As people know, all about the Easter eggs. Oh, so she gives. So she, what she does is she does, she gives clues in the things that she says, and then you gotta work out, like, when the album's coming out, how many songs it might be, you know, just like future stuff, some of the stuff's three years in advance, and the Swifties are all over, you know, tick tock and things like that, trying to find and work out the Easter eggs. Okay, but the reason I like all of that is the joy that she brings to people's lives. And she knows that she's deliberately doing that to bring joy, and her goal is to bring joy. So her goal for getting engaged wasn't like, you know, look at me, I'm getting engaged. It was like, I'm happy, and I'm sharing my happiness. And I was down with down for that, which is, that's why they support their marriage. Sharing the joy, actually sharing the joy, like, like, like, legit, you know, let's share out, like the hunting wives, yeah? Sharing joy, looking each other's bits out. That is not bad again. Women to think about stuff. Yeah, do you think about it? Do I think about it? Yeah, I I talk. I've talked to amp about, like, the fantasy of, like, introducing a third person, right? But I've said I just can't bring myself to do that. No, no, no, not in real life. Not real life. Real life. Oh, but like, Could you be with a woman?

I have to love her. I couldn't. Yeah, I don't know. I don't

know. I don't know the answer to that question, no, because you wouldn't Yeah, I don't know. You haven't had, you haven't had a party where two people are together and then you get

in the SPAR and be with a 17 year old yet.

But I would, we would like to share some some good news with you. What's our good news? KB, what is our good news? Well, we spoke about the start, about this community that we've built, and we're really excited to have received all your, you know, your DMS and the beautiful stories, beautiful stories, funny, intriguing, funny stories that you share, and we want to give back to you. So this is how we're going to do it. We have a new little community group that was started called the naked circle. The Naked circle, the names did go around about what to be called. And I went the next circle, and then everyone said, What does B think? And I go, B will be down with the naked circle. Thumbs up. What I do? I love hearted that one naked circle. So it's a

community. Facebook,

again, women to think about stuff. Yeah, do you think about it? Do I think about it? Yeah, I I talk. I've talked to ant about, like, the fantasy of, like, introducing a third person, right? But I've said I just can't bring myself to do that, any of it. No, no, not in real life, not in real life, real life, but like, Could you be with a woman?

I have to love her. I couldn't. Yeah, I don't know. I don't

know. I don't know the answer to that

question, no, because you wouldn't, yeah, I don't know. You haven't had, you haven't had a party where two people are together and then you get in the SPAR and be with a 17 year old yet. Wow. But I would, we would like to share some some good news with you. What's our good news? KB, what is our good news? Well, we spoke about the start, about this community that we've built, and we're really excited to have received all your, you know, your DMS and the beautiful stories, beautiful stories, funny, intriguing, funny stories that you share and we want to give back to you. So this is how we're going to do it. We have a new little community group that was started called the naked circle. The Naked circle, the names did go around about what to be called. And I went, and they take circle, and then everyone said, What does B think? I go, B will be down with the naked circle thumbs up. What I do? I love hearted that one naked circle. So it's a community Facebook page, if you would love to, yeah, agree, yeah. And we will be posting funny things in there, things we might be talking about, things that we come across, that you know, just to actually not hide it. We want to share it, but share it with the people that want to hear and see it. Yes. And, and you can post anonymously, ask us questions. Like, hey, you know, I'd like to know more about this, that and the other. And we can either share it in the group, or we can share it like, you know, put a pod like a zoom call monthly thing where we chat to the people, you know, chat to whatever. So we don't know where this is going to take us, but all we know because we are down now. We are down for creating a community of awesome people that want to talk about sex, be open about it, and just, you know, uplift each other and bring the joy. Bring the joy, the joy. Yeah, we are bringing the joy. How can you be a part of the group? We're gonna have a link. The link will be in our bio, yep, on all our platforms, so you will be able to find it, and you can join the group, and then we'll see you in there. Yes, so exciting. And also see you next week. Bye. Thanks for listening to sex and the one, an original podcast created by KB and B, produced by b and KB, content by KB and B. Enthusiasm for sex B and mostly KB, you.