Dick Pics

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B, Welcome to Sex and the one the podcast with B and K v getting down

and dirty about all things, love life, sex, dating and relationships. Guess what, guess what. Guess what. Guess what. Guess what. Guess what. This is we're going to discuss today. I'm very excited we're going to discuss today one of my all time pondering questions that we asked people months ago, and I didn't actually feel like I got the answer I was looking for. So we haven't recorded a pod on it, but we decided to record a pod on it because I want to talk about it anyway. Let's talk about it. Talk about sex, baby. What to talk about? We're going to talk about, Why do guys send unsolicited penis photos? Because they're dicks. Why do they why? Why the dick? Why the dick look? I could

have God. Could have made them much prettier, that's for sure. Yeah, I do not find them attractive.

No, I wonder how many women do

look I can't say I've had an unsolicited dick pic sent to me,

right? Because you know what a world you live in.

Well, by the sound of it, I'm pretty

lucky. I have told people before this, and I've said, and I'll keep saying it, I have been sent literally 1000s. It would be literally 1000s. And I made a collage in covid of how many unsolicited had been sent, like, online, and we were talking unsolicited case. We're being really clear here. This is not you and Anne having some sort of a little scenario where you're sending each other, like, you know, nice things to each other, and you're having a mutually beneficial moment, because there is such thing as sexting, there is such thing as

phones, but, you know, like, I'm too scared to do it, because I'm scared I'm gonna send it to the person. Have you ever sent a text to the wrong person? I've sent a text to the wrong person? Have you, but not like a sexual one, because I'm too scared, and that'll happen to me. You know, like you're thinking, imagine, like you're thinking of your mom, or you're thinking of your dad, like what they think of you sending this text sometimes, when I think of it, I'm like, Oops, gone to the wrong person. Like,

no, no. I have, like, over the years, like, most recently, I don't, I generally don't send them. Don't even talk about sex with people I'm gonna have sex with, just coming over and have the sex. I recently just get to the point recently I am I was wanting, I was wanting to catch up with someone who I've been catching up with semi regularly for a couple of years now. And I sent him a text with the hands up emoji. And then the three, you know, this, like the water, yeah, yeah, hands up, squirt. Then he wrote, Sunday afternoon, and I wrote, sounds good. That was the end of the thing, and then the rest of the stuff happens in person, which is what I prefer, because what I discovered over the time is I used to send them back in the day, because, you know, they'd send them a new template. It's like, solicited, not unsolicited, by the way. People, yeah, so, so this is, like, people that you're having conversations with that you whatever. What happens is you end up not meeting them because it's dicks. It's like porn, like, so they've had their porn, they come and then they're like, oh, okay, it's an ick, yeah. They don't, you don't meet them. So I want to meet people, and so I don't want to, like, do it online. I want to Yeah, but you're talking about unsolicited, like, Hey, how you going today? And then they'll send a picture. The first dick pic I saw was one that you got sent. Yeah? Like, I can guarantee you this is a dick pic, but how do you know? Yeah? And then I pressed it, and then there it was, yep. And this was a guy that had written in his profile preferred connection. Lies like to get to know you. Lies not really interested in one night stays. But he literally said, I was hoping you could do something about this, and then sent his dick. Yeah, his hard penis. Yeah, he's and it wasn't. And this is the thing, guys, we don't like. It wasn't that good looking. What are they? What is a good looking penis? Well, I'll tell you. I'll tell you, from me, I don't like, generally don't like the look. But if you're going to have a penis that's perfect without a foreskin, they have to have a foreskin.

Sorry, hello for skin. I got that wrong. You knew that they have

to have a foreskin for it to be, like, esthetically pleasing for me. I mean, I doesn't, it's but having said that, it doesn't matter. It's like me having no boobs, like, they'll still have sex with you, but they mean, prefer bigger boobs. But like, whatever these are the boobs I have. So whatever penis you have, because your personality is way more important. But if you're talking like, actually, look the look of the penis, I much prefer the foreskin coming up and over and poking the little like the little head, like sticking in there, like, not too obvious and like, you know, sort of like, not too big, not too small and straight.

Do you know what I really like? What the feeling of pre calm, oh,

in your hands, or where feel like, if you know, you could fondling,

yeah, and then you get them to that point, just seems like you're in, like you've done. What

about the taste of pre calm? I don't know. I don't know if there's a difference in taste. Are you kidding me?

Pre calm tastes delicious, pineapple.

I don't know. I just get one taste.

No, no, the cum tastes different to the

print. Oh, no, I'll have to take note for next. I think you will.

It comes Delicious. It tastes like, um, it's sweet, almost, yeah, people get pregnant from freaking, okay. It's like, it's like, chocolate balls. But anyway, remember that song? That's what you said. Yes, I do think teenagers think of balls. Yeah, yeah. What do you think of balls? Do you like? Look at balls. I like the feel, yeah.

Let's go there. Oh my

gosh, my nose is going funny. Um, yeah, I don't know. I don't look I don't like the look of the anatomy. I just don't like it. But why do you like balls? I don't know. They're nice to hold sometimes. Do you like hairy or No, no, like, you know, I mean, it's there. It's a natural thing, yeah, but you prefer no hair. Don't like a lot of hair. What about for you? Do you like hair? No, no, I do not just behave. Yeah, I've done that for

years. Yeah, me too. I think your grades are better.

Oh, I guess there's less friction, like, as in, when there's hair there, there's like, um, there's something more to penetrate, you know,

yeah? But also, like, Well, for me, the guy's more willing to stay down there longer, pay more attention if he's not, like, got a nose full of hair,

yeah? You know those thick hairs?

Well, they're coarse. I mean, do you put conditioner? Oh, you know they're not very nice

hairs. Like, I gotta bring pop culture into this every fucking time. Yeah, is this hilarious? Realize why I said New York? Yeah, I don't know if I want to know, but I want to know. Oh, there is this famous fashion. She's famous. What's her name? Jenna, Jenna Lyons, right? She's a fashionista. Anyway, she's a stylist. And they talked about her vagina hair, and they were giving her shit about it. It was straight, like your hair, right now, her hair was straight. And they made this spectacle of her vagina I've never seen straight, and then they gave an example of, like, one of those dogs, straight. One of those

dogs that reminds me of the time that I decided, quite sure she's already felt all the embarrassment of that already I know that reminds me of the time that I decided I wanted to wax my own down below, because I was wanting to save money or something at the time, and I had a go, and I was in so much pain, I stopped. And so I had mange, so I had some bits with hair and some bits that were not hairy.

Oh, there's nothing worse than waxing a vagina, yeah, when I, like, because I was a dancer, like, I had to have clean bikini lines, like, because we'd have very high cut, like, sort of leotards and costumes, yep. And, like, I was an early bloomer, so I had to have this sorted, and the pain, like, my vagina would be swollen for days after that. Yeah, legit, yeah, because they're taking a whole layer of skin off. Yeah, it's my laser, like, life saving. It's

really interesting that they do that for dancing. How old were you when that happened? Well,

I got a period when I was 10, so it would mean at least like

12. So you're 12 wearing high cut sheet that requires very, very sexualized. Well, I could have shaved, but my mom didn't believe in shaving, like she didn't want my hair. And I mean, just the fact that you have to wear those outfits at 12 is very interesting, isn't it? Very sexual

person. So was everyone else sexualized? Sport, yeah. Sport, yes. I do feel like you put in scenarios where you have to because you're acting in certain, you know, dances and performances, so you have to put on a persona. I think you're not, yeah, but it's interesting. I went to the dancing comps recently, and I'm taking a little detour here, but the judge came on stage, and she said, the stage is a place where you can be something that you're not done yet, yeah? So I feel like you got to have that alter ego come out, and the movement of certain dancers and things like that allowed you to feel sexual, and that would have been perfect for you, because that's who you are. Yeah, I still love dancing on the dance floor to this day.

Yeah, yeah. It's when you feel the sexiest. Yes. There you go. Okay, back to the dick pieces. Are you ready? So I want to say this, I have four full pages of notes. Do you know why I have four full pages of notes? It is the only question that I have ever put out to people that almost every single person I asked answered me. Almost every single person had an opinion, all different opinions, and I even asked, like a bunch of guys that I'd spoken to from years ago and stuff like that, just because, just because, just because I wanted to get a perspective, to be honest with you, I wanted to talk to some guys who had done it, but actually the guys that I would still talk to don't do it. And so that was really tricky, because I didn't really get to the bottom of it, because I did speak to someone who does, but in the process of that, I did have to block someone. I had to delete about two or three people because they were really inappropriate with my question. So I'm presuming they may have been people that did that, but people, it was a very Yeah, it was a significant question at the time. But here's some answers. Ready for answers? I'm ready. Somebody said they are pretty chuffed with it. It's fun, and they think that it's the coolest. So they think we're going to love it too. They don't realize we don't give a fuck, like their car. So they see it like their car.

No, you know, the boys are little, you would know they fondle with themselves, whether they're public or not. Women don't do that. We don't just go for something up like they do. They put their hands down their pants and fix their bits. And so I think it's the same thing. I think it just comes with them. Yeah,

they like but they I got that. They think that it's awesome. And so we're going to think it's awesome, because they think it's awesome falls around them, and so they think we're going to like it because they like it. Yeah. And then I think about us, some people said, because men measure themselves up against each other and don't realize that women don't like it, that is massively. They think the bigger the dick, the bigger the man. And they couldn't be more wrong. Every single woman that I spoke to said something along the lines, or everyone who spoke about this size does not matter to them. 100% No, yep, there are women matters that absolutely it would. But like people I spoke to didn't, doesn't matter to me. Size? No,

you got motion in the ocean mate, that's all that matters. Absolutely. I couldn't

give a rat, like, at all, like when they get it out. I just wanted to use it.

How do you use it?

Someone 100% sure, but maybe they think it's going to help them get laid. Not sure how it would. Though validation. Someone said, Because I send unsolicited tit picks. There you go. Self conscious, cocky ego. Lot of people couldn't wrap their hand, hands around

it. Their hands. It's their heads. Yeah, because they

think they're so hot. I don't know how that's a replica. They're desperate attention seeking. See. I actually think at halfway through the day, I started to go, I don't think this is correct, because I think the type of got so the type of guys I speak to, yeah, or don't send them unsolicited. And so I'm thinking, right? So they don't send them unsolicited. They care about women, think they respect women's values, so the guys that send them don't kill women, drink, think, don't protect women's values. So there's the car analogy, where they think you'll think that you're going to like it too. But I actually think there's a more sinister element. They don't give a shit if you don't like it, they just want to have a response, any response, and they don't care if it's negative or positive, because it's not about you. It's about them wanting to feel fun about your reaction, no matter what your

reaction is. Men are very simple, yeah, it's just an initiation of, do you want sex or not? It

can be, yeah, it can be. But I think it's also like, Haha, I'm going to send this and see what kind of woman I'm dealing with, because if the woman reacts, Oh, that's funny, he he's like, he skipped all the people he had to treat her well and just skip straight to the sex.

And that's a massive red flag. And we don't have them in our lives. But then there are women that fall for it, surely. So can you do you know any of those? Yeah, I do some

women who just want sex. They think, Oh, good. He just want sex. I want sex. I want just want sex. And it's a transactional sex, not not humanity sex. And I've had transactional sex before where you don't really care what the other person you just want to, like, do the deed. And so a lot of people will send them because they just want to do the deed. And if you react what they would consider poorly, like, if you say, I'm into that, then they don't waste their time. Because, like a lot of guys I've had, the same thing happened to me a lot with because I live two hours from Melbourne, so it's like, oh, you mentioned me. I'm here from Megan. Do you come to Melbourne much? They don't want to know what I'm like, what person I am, quite a person I am like, what skills I've got exactly. Well, are you worth my time? Can I be bothered talking to you? Well, it's 50, 50% 50 50% chance of how the woman's going to react. So I guess if women keep taking the bait, some women, then they're not going to change their behavior, for sure. But the thing is, someone, someone's written, I find them baffling. Dicks aren't exactly the most attractive looking thing, really. So What idiot thinks a woman is going to be turned on by that? If that's the best thing, part of the guy, I'd hate to see what the rest is. Like some people have said because they have a singular brain cell, because they think we're dicks, it's

the next brain, the second brain. Yeah, yeah.

Like we just talked about them with the hook up

someone broke. That's the million dollar question, because the because the camera adds 10 kilos, that's true

sense of entitlement. It

makes them feel like God's gift.

Nightclubs touch. It's the modern version of that. I think I was talking about that my sister told me a story once that she used to go to the nightclub in the 70s, in the 80s, like she's 10 years older than me, and she used to go to this nightclub, and she would, she would always have to gather a bunch of girlfriends go to the toilet together, because it was always a line of guys in front of the toilet touch them as they walk past. And that was perfectly normal. And it was just normal that when you went to the nightclub that a guy was going to touch you on the ass, touch you on the ass, touch you on the boob, whatever. And they knew that women had to go to the toilet, so they waved it out the front of the toilet to touch them on their way. And girls would go in groups. They'd feel safer. And that was a normal, normalized thing. And I've discussed before about how I went dancing once, and how you know a guy was going to give girls drinks. Women are not safe in public, and we make, we make continued and repeated decisions about what we're going to do with our life based on how safe we're going to feel doing it, we're just not safe. And so these kind of things, when we send answers to dick pics, they're the opposite of safety. Yeah, they're the

opposite of safety. And this has been an historic, historical issue for quite some time now, and it just doesn't seem to be getting any easier for me. But if anything, it's getting

harder. No, I agree, because the online stuff, screwed, yeah, desperate for attention. We live in a culture that encourages men to to derive their sexual self esteem through sexual conquest, so they feel better if they get more more pussy makes them feel better about themselves. Check out my big circumcised dick. Wanna fuck it. Suck it. Yep. Ego, just looking for sex. I don't know. I don't know. It was a while ago now that I did the did the thing, but it like I didn't feel from any of those four pages of answers that we really got to the bottom of, why do they send so many? Because I have received so many that there has to be a significant portion of men that do it like just personally, I've experienced so many. And I know single women have that some apps don't now allow you to send photos. Yeah, right, yeah. So now that privilege is being taken away, and guys can get reported and all that kind of stuff. Well, that's a positive, I guess, for the yeah, sometimes a good guy gets reported and he can never use an app again. I have heard of that sequences of kids action, yeah? Well, this is the thing like, well, this is the thing, right? This is what I find so interesting. So guys will, like, we've always talked about women value in society, men's value in society, and how, like, we're living in a patriarchy, and how men makes a lot of the decisions and women have just, you know, like, even though women are strong in lots of areas, it's not seen as a strength, and all that kind of stuff. And I find this particular topic really interesting, because penises are freely given, freely given, like, to the point where, like, there's literally 1000s that I've seen, and they just hand it over. But who pays to see women's

bodies? Oh, the man often. Porn

was one of the first industries online that people started whipping out their credit cards and they started making, you know, millions of dollars just a female voice. Yeah, yes. The sexting, yeah. They call this those sex. The sex calls Yes, Hey, baby, yes. They did paper. They

used to have little sections of call this girl, and they would pay for to hear a woman's voice. Say, are you touching yourself? Yeah? Like,

yeah, yeah. And have you ever heard of a woman doing that? No, so, who? So who has the value? Like the women are often seen, we believe ourselves that we have less value. But like, who really? Who really, who really holds the power? Because

he holds the pussy power, the power of the pussy,

exactly. And can I tell you, I've got a I've got a friend who is dabbling currently in sugar daddy.com I'm sorry, sugar baby.com, anyway, I don't know the actual website, but basically she's dabbling in being a sugar, sugar person. So if people that don't know what that is, you would agree to do certain things and they give you money, or they give you things, and you've got a relationship. It's a transactional relationship, where the woman does whatever she feels comfortable to do and gets paid whatever they have agreed that he's going to pay her. So that goes all the way from taking photos of your feet, which everyone's heard of, to like full blown sex acts, whichever is the thing. So the person that I'm, that I know, actually is just doing photos that she feels comfortable to do, that she would probably send a guy anyway if she was in a relationship with him, but, but fuck it, she's going to get paid. And so she's got, currently a guy that she's sending her boobs, a photo of her boobs to every day, and then he paid for her manicure. Oh, what a transaction. And like she failed, she's taken she's told him a story of a sexual encounter that she had got paid to tell him the story again, something that she'd probably tell him anyway. She's made $545 in her first month, just dabbling in this and not doing anything sexual with these guys, just doing things that she would normally do on a regular chat with a guy anyway. Fucking awesome chick,

to acknowledge that power and be like, Nah, I'm gonna, I'm gonna do, yeah, the courage. I'll do

this woman. Yeah, me too. We'll get her on the pod one day. Goal. We will make it a goal. But, like, what's amazing is she's just gone. Actually, I'm going to cash in on the fact that they are willing to pay, and it's transactional, so they both know exactly what each other's going to give. And the whole world is very fascinating, because the guy goes, Okay, I'm going to give you these options. Which one do you want to choose? Like, do you want to be my slave? Or do you want to just do a couple of photos? You know, like, she gets to pick which photos, and I think she's meeting a couple of them in person, but it's for a coffee, not for life. Yeah, she's not getting paid to have sex with them. It's like, it's a transactional relationship that, like is on her level, that she's prepared to do. And

the whole, like, the Fetish world is a whole nother. It's a whole nother

galaxy. Do you know what the guys like? Do you know what? You know what some of the guys like that she's talking to? They want her to sound needy and and like begging for their attention. Oh, but could you please do that for me? Because, you know, I'd really appreciate it. Oh, my God, I don't know if I could do that. They want to sound they want you to sound like that, like you can't live without them. That's fucked up. Well, that's hilarious, because she pretends I have to pay someone to do that in the real world. That's what they look that's what they look that's what they want. Yeah, they want subservient, Serbian women. Yeah. But what's hilarious is, like, as we've talked about, like, you know, people always talk about, is, like, sex work is actually the oldest profession on the planet. And if we had have, like, valued that back in the day, we would have realized women's power, because women do have a lot of power in that area.

When you think of, you know, marketing ads or things like that, Sex sells, Sex sells, and it's all, there's always a woman, yes, that is featured. And I know that, you know, they're, you know, they're, you know, parading her, maybe, maybe her body around, or certain lingerie, but at the end of the day, like she's getting paid to do that, she's making the choice to be in that ad. Yeah. And it works for everyone. It's attractive 100%

and it works for women. It works for men. Women. Look at women like, you know, women want to have sex with men, but we're looking at women like to find Absolutely, we're looking for women. We're looking at women. And I think that it speaks to like, all of the levels of society, in relation to like, if you step back and kind of pull it out a bit like, it's, it's what we all experience on a daily basis anyway, but it's just monetizing it. Like, I you, I mean, maybe you haven't, but I've sent photos of my boobs before, like, to people and not got paid for it, yeah, like, because it's so it's like, it's, yeah, I guess it's similar to, like, you know, getting your hair done versus doing your own hair, isn't it?

But if you can monetize it, I mean, why wouldn't you? Yeah, I know someone that met someone off an app, yeah, and they had, like, just having conversation, but it was specifically around, like, the conversation got into fetishes and what they enjoyed. I can't remember what app it was that would probably give away a little bit more, but I can't recall that. And in the end, she ended up wearing a pair of socks that this person had purchased her. He had to buy them, right? She had to wear them, yep, for a couple of days. And then she had to deliver them personally. And she got around 400 bucks for that. Wow. And then what does he do with the socks? Melon, I don't know. Well, this is the thing any women that would pay for a man's socks absolutely fucking not. I want to put them in the wash or throw them out. I don't know any student that would do that. I need to understand this more, but I don't. Apparently the feet thing is a real thing. Like, there's something about feet that men particularly, like, yeah, I don't know what it is, because I fucking look at my feet and I go, What the hell is going on there? Yeah? Like, how I do like, feet too. But it's not a fetish. Like, I don't have a fetish. I don't like, it's not a turn on, not like forcing See

you next week. Phil,

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