Yoni Massage, Sex Bucket Lists & 20 Orgasms with Susan Bratton

Welcome to Sex and the one the podcast with B and KV getting down and dirty about all things, love, life, sex, dating and relationships. Welcome back to another episode with B and KB. We are so excited today, like this is our first international superstar. She's an absolute glamazon intimacy expert, you know, top bookseller, manufacturer of organic and botanical supplements. Like the list goes on and on and on. And on and on. Welcome to Sex in the one the podcast. Susan Bratton, hey, b Hey, baby, so adorable. I'm so happy to get to know you for the fruit. To be honest. What do you want to talk about? What's on your mind? You said sex enthusiast, yes, this is the thing we like. Sex is always on our minds, so we're very excited to be talking to a like minded individual. How long have you been a fan of what I know, what you would call it, the sex community, and how long have you been doing this? Yeah, decades. I've been writing books and programs for decades and publishing the work of my mentors. I was in Silicon Valley, I was a tech person, and I was married to my husband for 11 years, and I had stopped wanting him intimately. He was so he tried so hard to get me, get me in the bedroom of the poor guy. And I was just like, like, I was like, the original duty, booty, mercy, sex wife. And I felt so guilty, and I felt like there was something wrong with me, and he thought maybe I was a lesbian, and, you know, all this stuff, and we just thought, neither I'm unhappy because he's unhappy. He's unhappy. He wants intimacy. Why? Why isn't it? Why don't why am I having workouts from intercourse? And we went to therapists, but they didn't really help us with that. They were better at the kind of relational dynamics. And we ended up going to some sex workshops, and almost immediately our sex got great. And I thought to myself, I really want to bring this workshop experience online so that anybody, anywhere around the world, can learn pleasuring skills, communication skills, how our bodies work, because all we ever see are depictions of sex through the male lens. The men all own the studios. They produce, all the movies, porn is all for the male gaze. Everything is to the male tempo. What the penis wants, you know, and wouldn't think there's something wrong with us when it's just that we literally don't even get taught how our bodies work, yeah, what the parts are called down there. Your pride in our you know, absolutely like, I remember, like, I was always taught, like, sometimes you have to because he wants to. Like, I was never taught you might like it, but I might like it that it might be fun for me I was talking, but that was something that they have, that they want to do sometimes, and you need to let them because they need to feel that sometimes. Yeah, I think obviously I was like, I was in, I was ready to go. And, yeah, no, that's common too. Yeah. Well, that's been my experience. If the people that I speak to, the female of the couple feels more sexually inclined than the male, yeah, yeah, but I guess depends on your friends. Artist, yes, it does. But yes, there is a lot of what people sometimes call mismatched libido or and I honestly think it's all of these things, you know, have low libido, mismatch libido, high desire partner, you know, like all that stuff, if we had decent pleasure based sex education, if we understood what we were going for, if we had a roadmap to the fundamental skills in what order, if we learned how to do bedroom communication in a way that moved us forward, if we had fun things to look forward to on our sex life bucket list, and we didn't feel like we had to know what we were doing. We enjoyed the experimental aspect of learning together that we could get over that like especially for our male partners, you know, they the egoic need to always know and be right and have it figured out. Instead of being more experimental, it would solve this issue. Because what ultimately happens is that when people don't get all this knowledge and information, then they sex isn't good after a while. And so then they just start shying away from each other. It gets boring, the monotony of monogamy, you know, all this kind of stuff. Or if somebody has an issue painful sex, or retinal dysfunction, or what have you, and they just stop having sex. They stop being admit they stop doing anything. They stop touching. They sleep in different bedrooms. And then that affects that lack of extension of their sex fan reduces their health span and their happiness span they die younger. I mean, it is. It's a tragedy, the lack of sexual what? What religious repression, the you know, only seeing male oriented sexual information, the scare tactics of sex ed rather than pleasure based, never seeing anything on movies or televisions. That is what women would really like. No models, and we all die, but not we all not me. I'm gonna live a long time. I'm a hell. You gonna live forever. I'm having great orgasms all the time. What do you think made you different? Like, what made you go down this path, as opposed to do the other things you're talking about? Because I'm nodding along. I know a lot of people that are in that other position, and the women don't actually know what's going to turn them on a lot of the times, and so they don't know how to ask for something, because they don't know. Adults what to ask for? Yeah, I don't know what I want. I just know what getting, isn't it? Yeah, that is so common. And I think men really are equally disserviced By this, you know, this cultural construct. I mean, they have to try and figure, a lot of guys are like, how can I get her to see how beautiful she is to me? She won't open up. She only lets me have sex in the dark. She won't let me go down on her. They, you know, she just doesn't understand how much I want to desire her women, we women were caught in the, you know, the advertising perfect body. Only thing that looks good are 20 year olds. And if you're 40 or 50, or, God forbid, 60, your life is, you know, you're a washed up old crone, like all that stuff I'm getting so emotional, like I feel your words. Because I've been married for 12 years, and I absolutely adore and love my husband, and I hear him say, say those things, like, You're gorgeous, you're and, you know, from the depths of his soul. And there are moments where I'm like, is something wrong with me, like hormonally? Am I going through some changes? Is that where, you know, the libido is gone this week, or what's happening is it, do I have too many tabs open? And I feel, as women, we do have so much on our plate. That is the last thing on the list, even though I love it. Yeah. So, yeah, once you get there and you have sex, you're like, how do we have more sex? 1,000% this is true. It's like, it's like, it's making it a priority, even though, you know it's awesome. But would you say that hormonal cycle? Did you play a part for men and women? Yeah, a tiny part. One little, tiny part. But hormonal cycles is an interesting thing. I mean, when you're olating during times when you're still menstrual, ovulation can make you more available and interested in sex. You might have more lubrication and desire, but really, I think it's better to not even worry about that and to just learn how to lay down together and create pleasure at the pace that the female body need needs it to want it. When my husband so my husband and I are very busy. We run our businesses together, we travel. We're, you know, running around, and we schedule our sex. And by sex, I don't mean schedule time for him to, you know, pound me orgasm and go make a sandwich. What I'm talking about is schedule love making dates that are. We try new things. We always have stuff. You know, once you start to break through the old way that we thought sex should be, and you start to get really comfortable learning things together, you develop your sex life bucket list. You have erotic playdate ideas, things that you want to try, orgasm skills you want to learn, oral pleasuring, intercourse technique, playing with toys, doing role playing, new sex positions, sex in different locations, trying sexual bio hacking things. You know, there's like so many types of things, and I put them all together in this thing called a sex life bucket list. And it's not like the Cosmo sex life bucket list, which is mostly just the same old thing with a little variation. My sex life bucket list is an intimacy expert to millions with decades of sexual experimentation oriented toward hetero, monogamous couples and singles who are waiting to find the lover they have always wanted, and it's a lot to do with growing your skills by having erotic playdates and learning new things together, because that monotony of monogamous Sex goes away when if you want to have desire, it's a combination of trust and feeling like you can surrender to your pleasure with novelty and variety, a new experience. And when you don't have the latter, you only have the former. The other thing is, I don't expect myself to be horny. I just put the date on the calendar when nobody's going to nobody's gonna bother us. And we and We're old now and in my 60s, so we have afternoon sex a lot because we can, which is super nice. You know, it's still light and we're not tired. We can go out for dinner and we're we just need to go to go to bed and things like that. So I know that when we get in that bed for that play date, we've got the covers on the bed, you know, the fascinator so we don't get any lubes on the covers. We got the lights, nice look at the temperature, nice look at the music on. We got a stack of clean towels. We've got my favorite lubes, my favorite sex toys, but he's got a stack of clean towels. Yes, you have to have a stack of cleaner wipe the oil of your hands and pack your yoni. And so we get all that lover space set up. He's showered, shaved, groomed. He's got a clean t shirt and some loose, soft pants on, and I he likes when I wear lingerie. So sometimes I'll put lingerie on and sexy shoes, not always. Sometimes I don't feel like scratchy. You know, even the fancy stuff is not uncomfortable. And then I then I know that either we'll do the thing we like to do the most, we have our favorite, like set pattern thing that is really fun, like, tell you what that is, or we want to try something new. And I would say, like, 50, 60% of the time it's our pattern, our comfort steps, and 40% of the time it's spontaneous novelty, or we had a plan to try something. Because I try a lot of new things. As a sex educator, I want to be up on the latest and greatest of everything there is. So I like to have the experiences. And he's so great, I joke that he's just up for anything like what anything like whatever I want to do. He'll do it with me, which is really a nice way to have a partner. And we land on the bed, and we hug, we check in. He holds me. We do some Yoni massage, you know, we I don't expect to be turned on, because I just landed on the bed. I've got estrogen making my monkey mind. I. As you said, the all the tabs open, and I got to close those tabs, and it takes a minute, and then I got to get turned on. And that takes 20 or 30 minutes of going massage, breast, pleasuring, kissing, stroking his penis. Maybe I get turned on enough, and I go down on him a little bit, you know. And then maybe we just an intercourse. We try sex position, we do a toy, we try something new, or whatever. And so, because there's no pressure, because I understand how female arousal works, and I'm not any different than anyway, we have all the same have all the same parts. Our arousal is the low. Men's is quick. They've got testosterone dominance. They've got fast acting blood flow into the penile tissue chambers. We are slow. We're estrogen. It seeps in. We need we need to be calm down, get out our head, into our body, relaxed, feel comfortable. And a lot of women are listening to us right now, going, I have three children, I have a full time job. I can't have time for all that. I kind of think I understand. But how many hours of streaming are you consuming? Yeah, how much are you scrolling your socials? How much are you shopping online? Because it's priorities, isn't it, yeah, when you have the kind of sex life where you're happy, you have great orgasms, you have fun in the bedroom with your partner, you feel really confident. You love your body, because now you realize, hey, we all have fat rolls and saggy boobs and fat asses, and they like that. They do what's the squishy bits they like? Just like we like to grab on their big biceps. You know, we like the art, and they like the sauce. And so once we realize, okay, well I could, I could live someone else's capitalistic agenda from her life, or I could make a date with my partner, or have him make a date with me. Sometimes I just want my husband to ask me for sex. I don't want to always be the one who's saying when we do it. I wanted to be like, Hey, I have a new idea. There's something I want to try on you. What's your Thursday or Friday? Look like I'd like to do some things to you, naughty little things to you. And I'm like, Okay, a question in there. You talked about Yoni massage? Yeah, there'll be lots of people to know more information about that. So is it okay if you go into  a bit more detail about what I would love to Yoni massage is my every year I do a couple of big sex shows over in America that I do my annual sex trends episode with them. And so every year I come up with what are the top 10 trends that I see in the marketplace. And this year, it was Yoni massage. And it's interesting because it was on my list for many years, but it crept to the number one spot because our male partners started getting interested in it. It was men saying, What's Yoni massage? My wife wants a young massage. How do I do a Yoni massage? I've heard a lot about Yoni Stevens, and I've heard about Yoni putting your Yoni in the sun. So like sunbathing Yoni, but I haven't heard a whole lot about Yoni massage. Well, Sunshine is just good for our bodies, that's for sure. I'm not. I'm not. I don't know much about yoni. It's not my area of expertise, so I'll reserve my judgment for that. But I know a lot about and so Yoni, y o n, i My favorite four letter word is a tantric love making word for the female genital system. I don't like the word vagina, because I feel like that is kind of like a male, patriarchal lens of our genital systems, like the only thing you care about is where you put your penis, rather than my and I don't like vulva, because vulva is the outside, so it's the lady and the clitoral tip. It's not what's in there in addition to that vaginal pocket, right? Yes. And so Yoni is this tantric love making word for the entire female genital system, but it also has kind of a spiritual reverence to it. It, you know, it acknowledges that it's our emotional body. It's part of our enteric nervous system. It's where we hold wounding and trauma. It's, it's everything. It's the seat of our power. It's the core of our passion and our vitality. And it's so it has this very comprehensive nature to that word. And it's a cute just, you know, like you've just got a little fun spirit to it sounds very fancy and rainbow, like, you know, rainbow mane, or something like kitty and all kinds of flowers, Yoni word. And Yoni massage is so nice, because you can do it yourself to yourself. You can do it partnered, so your partner can give you a massage, and you can do it manually. And there are also a couple of toys, or tools, pleasure tools, that I really like, specifically for Yoni massage. And the beauty of yoning Massage is that it's done a couple of things. Number one, it gives you time in the beginning of a love making date, for you to just relax and get out of that monkey mind of yours, and to close all those tabs and to settle, right? Yes, you got to settle. And it helps you get into your body. It helps you start to feel sensation. It's not pushing you toward penetration. It's not grabbing your nipples or sticking things in you. It's calm and it's and it's a time when, as a woman, your partner, if you're lucky enough to have a partner, and they're like a fur learning how which most men really want to give us incredible pleasure, and we just need to tell them what to do. And so why your massage is so good? It's so good for the women who are like, I don't know what I want, but I know what I'm getting, is it. Start with doing massage. It's good. For women who feel like they're libido is low. It's good for women who feel like they have sensation loss, labial laxity, loss of lubrication, because what it's doing is it upsets at a mechanical level, in your body works on blood flow every it's not so much your hormones that are taking a little testosterone helps keeping your estrogen topped up helps because it keeps the vaginal tissue thick in the lining so it doesn't get thin. It can hold more of the blood flow with the plasma that fills it and digital lubrication that you need. It helps a lot, but it's more about the fact that our arousal is just much slower than our real body partners, and we need some time. And for once, we'd like to just have the full attention on our pleasure and learn how as women, to receive love, orgasm, pleasure and. You get to prime the orgasmic pump, right? Oh, yes, yeah. So when you're when you are getting blood flow into the outer labia, the inner labia, the mons, your little sweet cheeks and perineal area, the inner labia, when you open the inner labia, that's called the vestibule, like a doorway inside, there is the tip of your clitoris, exactly the tip of your clitoris, and then where your urine and your female ejaculate, your divine lady nectar, comes out, and then the vaginal opening is inside there the little sphincter, little round, sweeping muscle. It's the opening sugar all that loves to be stimulated with the fingers, tongs, tools, etc. So when you get to just completely relax, get into your body, take a minute, take a pause and get pleasured. That tissue, the blood you get turned on, the blood flows into the pelvic bowl. It once all that's we have as much inside your husband's penis is a it's a sponge, and the sponge is not full, it's squeezed out. And then when he gets turned on, like he sees your boobs or whatever, he gets turned on, and that sponge fills with blood and gives an erection. That same sponge that's in his penis, which about half of it is out of body, but pattern that goes in and down toward a test is twice as big as what you see. The sponge is in his penis, three long tubes that get filled real fast. She we females are yoni. We have that same amount, like a bananas worth of sponge wrapped around our vaginal cavern. It comes to a point at our the tip of our clitoris. It's all that tissue, but it's in all these nooks and crannies, so it takes a while for the blood to get in. So when we have a Yoni massage, we get relaxed. We let down. The blood flows, our spit flows. We might have emotions come up. The blood runs into all those things, plumps it all up. So now you can start to have some orgasms before sex, you have a few, you know, nice orgasms. That Grimes the pump you're getting turned on, and that really helps you once you finally get to oral pleasuring or intercourse or what have you. Now you've got all this service area that used to be very flaccid and small, now it's all plumped up, and that sends way more signals to your biggest sex organ, your brain. That's what's so important. Is your brain is what's getting all the data from your Yoni saying, that feels good. Oh, that feels better. Oh, I just had an orgasm. Oh, my God, baby. Don't stop right there. Just do that. Yeah, side, sideways, back. Oh, can you rub my clitoral shaft from right where it goes in my mom's down to my quit, and then take your finger off and start at the top again, go down again. Real light, like you're petting the kitty's nose. Can you just do that for me? Like 20 times, sure, baby. I can do that. Is this what you want? You want lighter, you want a little harder. Oh, I feel your clitoris getting erect. Oh, this is my strike. So then you're starting to feel the Yoni plump and be pleasured. And it's just so nice. And then when he finally enters you, you got all this pillowy tissue that feels incredible, like the best you've ever felt. And because you got a Yoni massage, and I should tell you, can I tell you about the two toys, the tools that I like, absolutely the tools. So what's interesting is that there are two particular tools. Now, I'm a sex tech nerd. I told you before we started the show, talking about sex tech here and intimate, quantified intimacy, and wearables and all this stuff. So I'm really up on all the tech. And there are two tools that I have found work beautifully. You might choose one or the other. I have them both. They're not that expensive. And in the grand scheme of things, mom, even gorgement is the number one most important thing in your sex life. So like, why do you need another pair of shoes? I don't need one more pair of sneakers, although I would like to have every pair of sneakers in the world. These are really good tools, and the two tools that I like, one of them is and everything that I mentioned, whatever comes up, I always give links to so that people can find the thing I'm talking about. So I don't even know what it is, and I'm already gonna buy both of them. So going to buy both of them. You will need to give us the link. Yeah, exactly. We'll put them in the show notes. Is that drive desire.com so now you can forget about it. You know, you got it. Show Notes, you know, drive desire.com Okay, I've got it, yeah. And there's two Yoni massage tools. One is called the Queen, and one is called Enhanced. And the Queen use its oscillation rather than a vibration. It's a round vibrational pattern that your Yoni keep going around. It's so good. And it uses this technology called Pulse play technology that actually doesn't stimulate the skin of your yoni. It goes deep into the tissue, and that's what gets the blood flowing in and plumping everything up so it feels so good. What's the shape of it? Handheld, almost like, looks like, it looks like a little, you know, like, like an old telephone kind of thing. One, one here, the hearing thing, but not the mouthpiece, like a little handle with a little oscillator thing. So almost like a little externally, yeah, yeah. You're rubbing all the tissue, everything, all the way around and down in the middle, in that vestibule, and on the clitoral shaft, on the clitoris itself. But you want to start, I was somebody teach guys. I teach them something called the bullseye touch technique. The first two things I teach a guy who doesn't know what he's doing, how can they know? They never learn. No one where you know, like, that's not their fault, is to slow down and then slow down some more. Slow down some more. You know, they're just like, Let's go chill Bronco. Let's, you know. And the second thing I teach them is the bull touch technique, because, because of that, like, I want to spin or not, to push your button to make her have an organ, yes? And so, God love them. They want to win. You know. Win. But what they want and need to know is you don't want to just grab them by the internet right away. You want to work from the outside. And so I say, imagine a bull your your inclination is to shoot for the creamy center. That's not what Yoni wants. It pisses her off. Now, for men, I tell women, go put your put your hands on him immediately. That calms him down. But if he starts immediately touching to your lips. And some women are like, but that's what I like. That's because you definitely have what I'm talking about. Girl, try it, you know? Like, yeah, you've got that one pathway where you're just gonna go grind out and get yourself done. That's like, the lowest common thing you could possibly do. Let's expand here. This is why we're here, which expand our orgasmic capacity, orgasmically, cross train, feel more pleasure, have more orgasmic intensity, come longer, harder, better in more ways. There's over 20 kinds of orgasms you can have. So that one you got to, there's your foundation. Let's go from here. So the bullseye touch technique is what we need to move from that thing, which is like a sneeze, and into the kind of orgasms when you start on the outside, outer labia, Mons, inner labia, clitoral shaft, vestibule, clitoral tip. Then you're slowly everything up, and that is what begins to go really good. It allows you to have extend multiple orgasms, then extended orgasms, then expanded orgasms that keep getting more and more intense. And allows you to move from the kind of climax that men have because they don't understand. They can have 20 kinds of orgasms. They have ejaculatory orgasms, one and done. Most women have one and done, because that's all they've ever seen. But what we have the ability to do is go into these orgasmic states of bliss, these conjoined bliss states with our lover, and just rise the climax moments and go, go, go, ejaculate and have analgasms and footgas and coregasms and bellygasms and throat gas and nipplegasms. And there's so many ways to have pleasure, and I feel like the Yoni massage is the single found that. And being able to ask your partner for anything you want and have them not go well, I know what I'm doing. Like, stop doing that. That's number three thing I tell dudes, right? So slow down, start from the outside, and touch my freaking arms before you grab my nipples, you know, like so that, and then the you do not know. How could you know we are women who run with the moon even after menopause, and our Leones and bodies want something, not only every day differently, but every minute of every day differently. So sometimes we're kitty cat and sometimes we're a lioness, and you don't know when we're gonna whip from one to the other, because we didn't know. So we start to listen to our bodies telling us, we tell you, and what do you say? Thank you, baby. Got it? How's this better? Tell me more. I love it when you tell me that changes everything. So true. I'm pausing. I feel like asking, because you will have come across this, and there would be men out there that aren't interested necessarily in making sure that the woman enjoys herself in the couple. What would you say to the women in that situation who go to their partner and they say, I don't know what I like, but I want to explore what I like. And he goes, I mean, here's your options. Your options are, well, then I'm just not gonna have sex with you anymore, because it's no good for me and I'm not getting pleasure. So I'd like to teach you what to do, and I think you could learn some things, because it's not good for me and I don't owe you anything. Owe you Air Force. Owe you anything. You can do that. You can take a lover, explicitly or implicit. You could say, I'm just gonna take a lover who wants to pleasure me, and you can just go up and do what you want to do. You can do that. Or you can just take a letter and not tell him and cheat on him. If he won't move and he won't give you your pleasure, what are you gonna do? Then you can leave him. It's been the rest of your life being with someone who doesn't care about your pleasure. I mean, I understand there's economic situations we get. Ourselves into, but I'd start saving up. Into. Guys start saving up money for monastery from that, but mostly a guy who says there are actually not very many men like that. Most men want to give us pleasure, and they just don't know what to do. And they're raised in this kind of pecking order where they're supposed to know what to do, or they're a failure, so it's very hard for them to feel like they don't know what they're doing. I have a technique. I'll drop this for you right now too. It's called the sexual soulmate pact, P, A, C, P, like an agreement between lovers. Because I believe that sexual soulmates are not divinely ordained. You don't mind your sexual soulmate. You co create sexual soul, matery together by having beginner's mind communication skills, appetite for learning, willingness to be vulnerable, willingness to have this sexual soulmate pact. And I can teach you a million techniques, but until you get this agreement between you and your partner where you can ask for anything, they can ask for anything. You can say anything, nobody's feelings are getting hurt. Everything's just finding their way through and every individual day with how much stress and sleep and food and sugar and, you know, all the stuff we deal with. And so when you have that as a foundation, then you can really begin the learning the technique that technique. Then you can move into moaning and dirty talk and sharing fantasies and sharing favorite frames and all these different kinds of sexual verbal communications that even deepen the pleasure. Yes, beautiful, I'm captivated by the way you share, by the way I've been educated in this short amount of time. I can't believe I honestly, the listeners are going to get a treat, and I think that more questions are going to pop up from this. But if our listeners would like to know more, where can we best direct them? Susan, to get this information and to get in contact with you, yeah, and talk about more about what you're up to, yeah, what you're doing, out and about, sure, yeah. So the best way to kind of get into the Susan Bratton world is that better. Lover.com take. A better lover is a repository for my videos that I shoot for my YouTube channel, but it's also the place that you can go to get onto my email newsletter. And the beautiful thing about my email newsletter is it's this kind of stuff and more. It's sex technique, communication skills and intimate health and wellness information. And I put out two a week, so it's not overwhelming. And any email you get from me. If you reply to it and ask me a question, it comes directly to me. It doesn't go to my care team. I reply to all the emails I get. So every day, I'm answering anywhere from one to 10 emails from people around the world. I do anything good, it's not your gift to me, because I get educated by the questions you ask, the questions involved with our society, with our culture, with awareness, with growth, with education, podcasts like yours are what we need because need, because we can have these really down to earth talks. I can't advertise, I can't post this stuff on social media. It's all censored. I'm always, you know, Shadow banned and blacklisted. All sex educators are exactly you get all the poor you want, but you can't get a sex education, doctor, baby, because you know why? Because if you got a sex education, you wouldn't put up with the bullshit you're putting up with now is women, and so it's part of a repression strategy to keep us down so that we can be controlled. So the more sexual literacy we have, the better, more we thrive, and the more we grow. So with better lover.com. The two, you know, there's been replying Tommy asked me something almost always, nine times out of 10, maybe even more, like 95% of the time. I'm like, watch this video, read this article. Here's a free ebook. You know, that kind of thing. Kind of thing, and you learn about the types of techniques that I recommend and the types of techniques that I recommend that couples learn are things that I that have proven out over the decades. I've been doing this to be the real needle moving experiences that help us get on that upward pleasure spinal where sex keeps getting better and better as we age, where we are extending our sex band, and we're extending our health span and our happiness fan. We're getting over our body image issues. We're, you know, just getting all the benefits of good orgathic sex. Our partner is happier. We have a better relationship our kids. One of the biggest things I've heard over the decades is how frustrated we are as people when we don't ever see our parents being intimate or loving each other, being affectionate or having sexy times. And people say to me, my parents never told me anything about sex. I don't even know if they ever had sex besides having, you know, procreating me and I'm like you and everybody else in the world, it's not your mom and dad's job to tell you about sex, because they might have tried. And you were like, Oh my God, you know how teachers do that, right? You can't tell them. And so it's really great because it's your job to educate yourself. So if you find a sex educator you like and you're like, I like them. I'm gonna learn something. That's the best way to do it is just to read the emails, see what appeals, go down the raffles. You're a lot better off learning about how to have hot sex and be an amazing lover than you are endless scrolls and streams. 100% Yeah, I'm all bad, so I'm ready. Yeah, I'm getting onto better level. We're on the newsletter. We're buying those, Yoni massage.com sexual soulmate pack COMM And sex life bucket list.com. That's the one we talked about. And I'm also on Instagram. It's my name, Susan Bratton, all one word. So I barely see you. Where can we see you live? Because you know you're in Australia at the moment, you've been out and about doing some things. Well, I see you. I haven't my live, my live. It's over now. I was a sex edition in Brisbane, and it was so well done. I had so much fun. It was great. Audience I spoke audience. I spoke both days. And you have such incredible talent in this country. It is amazing. I'll tell you something. If you go to Instagram and go to sex submission.au, s, x, h, I V, I T, I O, N, you go to sex division on Instagram and look at all their reels, you will be so proud of your country and the incredible talent that you have. So did that been doing a podcast like yours? Thank you so much for having me. And, you know, probably on Triple J and, you know, things like that, they usually do. Sometimes I go on TV. I don't have any plans for this trip because over the holidays and people are off, but I've been on The Today Show with Sonia Kruger and David Campbell. I love them, and they're just like, so much, yeah. So, I mean, I come frequently. I've been in more places in Australia than most Australians. Most of those are like, we've been in Australia, and I'm like, I'm in the mainland, Perth, I've been to Margaret River. I've been to Boston. It costs more to travel within Australia than it does for us to go overseas. So I think baby and I learned America most years, actually. Oh, great. Oh, gosh no. When you're coming, where do you go? La, or where you go? Yeah. La, I just got back from Phoenix couple weeks ago. Yeah, he's running. Oh, that's so good. Yeah, yeah. We love it. We love it. Never, ever. You love Australia. We love Australia too, obviously. But yeah, traveling just the best wife. Yeah, see the world, I know. Yeah, yeah. So good here, your mind and your heart and your journey, yes, and your Yoni, opening your Yoni, yes, getting yon decided around the world, your goals. We should ask you one last question. I'm trying to think of a really cool last question, B, but if you think of a cool last any other question, I'll give you a second to think about. But my I think what I'm most fascinated about is that most women actually say, what actually that as they get older, they have less and less sexual intimacy, whereas your belief in your teachings are, like, I've expanded that, and that's what you're teaching. And I think if more women can, you know, jump on board, get that sex bucket list, like, sign up to get that at a minimum, things can change. And you know, you've really, I guess, instilling hope in the people that are listening, and I'm hoping there are more people that get onto this podcast, because there is light at the end of the tunnel. If you're willing to make some changes, or to be open and communicative about what it is that you want, you can change things with your support and your learning. So I'm just, yeah, fascinated with with the values that you're sharing and the teachings, to be honest. Yeah. So. Really different mindset to think about. You know, we have, we're so ageist in our culture. Oh well, by the time you're, you know, by the time you're in midlife, you've gone through menopause, you're useless, you can't appropriate. Doesn't mean you're not sexual. As a matter of fact, you've had a lifetime of getting better and better. You have the wisdom of your years. You have a lifetime of experience. You're less critical about your body. You're willing to stand for your desires. You have activated your Yoni, and you have more orgasmic response. The tissue is in good shape. Since you're frequently pleasuring yourself, you've got some good natural oils you're using for your lubricants. You're, you know, you're doing all of these things, and you are expanding. And your sexuality the same with men. Even if, as they age, they start to get erectile dysfunction, they can reverse that using penis pumps. And that is something that's like, for $200 you can get your erection back for more than, I would say, probably 75% of men who have erectile dysfunction. They don't even need things like Viagra. They have a healthy penis. There are men who it's a lot harder to get the function back, especially diabetics. That's a problem. It really it creates diabetic neuropathy, which is sensation loss and atrophy and things like that. The nerves don't keep working, basically. So, yeah, generally, if you just keep and it's not a user to lose it, you can always get it back. You might have to go take more drastic measures, like taking acoustic wave treatments. In America, they're called gains wave, and that really helps regenerate new penile and vulva this shoe, so you can reverse the atrophy from illnesses and things like that. And so there's and even if you can't have a firm erection, one of the brands that's on my drive desire is mystery vibe. And they have these penis rings, these double vibrating penis rings that will you can get the blood into your penis and lock it in, and then he's got a perineal vibrator for some extra stimulation. She's got a clitoral vibrator, and they can have penetrative intercourse for up to half an hour with that device. And it's wonderful. Yeah, so there's a laser too, where there's a will, there's a way, there's manual, oral toys, pleasuring, of different all the new the other pathways, besides just penetrative. So you know, you can have fantastic orgasmic intimacy that gets better and better till the day you die. It never goes down. For me at 64 I'm having the absolute best sex of my life, absolutely the most orgasmic, pleasurable sex of my life, do you have all 20 types of orgasms? The only one that i Yes, I have all kinds of orgasms, except I don't have the urethral sounding orgasm. That's something that men, like some men like to do this thing where they put a little like rod up their ureter, up their penis, and it stimulates that spongy tissue around the penis, around the urethral canal, and that can give the organs. And women can do it too. That's something that's a little too like gnarly for me. I'm not interested in it, but I have all of the other kinds of organisms. The one I haven't had is a orgasmic, like a erotic hypnosis orgasm, like a, like a hip when you're hypnotized, and they can make you come when you're hypnotized. For some reason, I'm really hard to hypnotize, like I just can't surrender to it. So I'd like to meditate, because I've had meditative orgasms. Is that similar? It's different. This is somebody who's literally putting you into a hypnotic transistor. Literally putting you into a hypnotic translation, having you come, yeah? You remember it, and you're lucid, but you're hypnotized. A meditative, meditative orgasm is what I call a whole body, or a full body or an energy orgasm, yeah, yeah. So same, yeah. And I have a lot of those. I have a lot of orgasms that are just spontaneous in my body, spontaneously energy, like, if I'm lying in their way from open shower or whatever, and I'm just thinking about how great it's gonna be, I can come, yeah, yeah, you're my idol. Exactly. We're gonna have podcasts what we learned from Susan. Anyway, yeah, we will definitely be doing that, like 100% we'll be deep diving into that website for sure. So thank you so much. And yeah, everyone else, we will see you next week and also on the website. Thanks.